October 04, 2010

Destined Encounters.

Fundamentally, I am a fatalist. I am also an optimist and a romantic, however I think I have my feet firmly on the ground, anchored in a basal reality, even though my head is in the clouds. And my heart somewhere in between.

At times I can be naive, but I always pay attention to the unseen and the unsaid. Being perceptive, for better or worse, I believe that everything we need to succeed  - in whatever endeavor we set upon - is to listen to our instincts. Our gut feeling, if you will.
And to meet the right people - or rather be sensitive enough to realize when we do.

I often think about all the different individuals, both men and women, that have crossed my path in the past.
Relationship wise, I am a walking disaster, as I have not been able to make any of my past romantic involvements last. Despite this though, all the men that I did let close to me were great people, displaying uncanny character and a beauty of mind. They were unique in one way or another and all inspired me to grow and flourish. In a certain sense they were my teachers, arriving in my life when I needed what they had to offer the most. Exposing me to new worlds, making me see reality with new eyes, bringing the best out in me - for a given time. I met them all in a very unusual or even non traditional way, perhaps because I did sense the incredible potential in these random meetings. And I fell deeply in love with them all - and love them all today still in a certain way.

The women of my past have all been great confidants, sharing with me precious and intense moments in my life. Their personalities varied, depending on what age I was when I did strike the friendship. But very often they were complete opposites of me, perhaps as they complemented me in a certain way and thus offered the support I yearned for. They were all my best friends in that period of time and made me feel happy and fulfilled. Today I laugh with amusement or cry with great sense of sentimentality recollecting those intense years spend in their company. Their faces look back at me from old photographs and their names from the pages of dusty diaries, reminding me of the infinite beauty that a human heart harbors. And is capable to give away...

I still do maintain contact with some of these wonderful human beings that have touched my life. Some came into it to stay. Some were only there for a moment, to play the part they were suppose to, in order for me to grow. Intellectually, emotionally and perhaps also mentally.

I believe there are no random meetings. The people that we meet are meant to come our way and we should never pass up on an opportunity to get to know them. If we listen to our inner voice and pay attention to the signs the world present us with every day, however subtle they are, wonderful experiences await.

I feel blessed to have made many memorable encounters in my past and I hope there are many in the future yet to come. Those that give rise to incredible potential and alter my reality in the most profound way. Ultimately I hope that my presence in the lives of others - whether lasting or brief - have impacted theirs in very much the same way.

35 comments :

Susan Deborah said...

I love the way you provide a glimpse into your life and through that direct us to the bigger picture of life. This has to be one of my favourite posts among the many from yours. The beginning paragraph was an absolute delight! What lovely sentences to describe oneself! Zuzana, as I get to know you more, I am filled with happiness and awe. You are quite aware of yourself and so very perceptive.

What you have expressed here is so very true. Everyone who comes into our life, come with a purpose. I have also been in love with many men and everyone brought out an element within me which was hitherto hidden. Similarly for women.

As I read this post, I think back to all the people I have encountered in my life so far and I share mutual feelings as you, when I think of them. They might have given me bitter experience but they brought out the best from within me. I take this chance to offer a silent gratitude to all those men and women who have crossed my path in the book of life.

Big hugs and much love dearest Zuzana.

I wish you a splendid week.

~ Susan

Doreen said...

love this post! I wonder about the same things. my relationships of the past have come and gone. now alone I wonder why, but also have an inside giddiness as to what will come. glad I have met you Zuzana. you have the ability to express in writing what many of us are also pondering.

swenglishexpat said...

I sometimes say that we think we run our own lives, control them, decide what to do and where to go, BUT often things just happen. You are simply lead down a path you could not foresee; events take charge and you go with the flow. Chance meetings grab hold of you and you are swept away.

GrandmaK said...

I, too count myself among the privileged who have the wise and comforting task of guiding me along this path!!! You have a wonderful way of putting into words the way you feel so that I, too, can connect with you! Thank you! Wishing you a wonderful day! Cathy

Brian Miller said...

oh i think you have, even having never met you, i know that you friendship as touched mine. and i agree nothing is random...each touch sending ripples to the next one.

steviewren said...

Like you, I sometimes ponder the meaning of friendship, life and feelings. I've wondered what it is about me that has drawn me to become friends with those whose lives are disasters and by extension make my life a disaster.

After the break up of my marriage, I decided I didn't want to be friends with crazy anymore. I moved away from some friendships and towards people who had their heads on straighter. None of us are perfect, but I realized that I couldn't fix people and I needed to give it up as a vocation.

So yes, I did learn a lot about myself and others during those years, but now I want to travel a different pathway. I want to be the one who has been there and done that and is a little wiser for it.

gaelikaa said...

You have a wonderful attitude. Life is a learning process all right....

SY said...

This is a beautiful post. I can completely relate I love to understand people and look beyond what they say to see who they really are.

I can't say that I am friends with every ex I've ever had but I have definitely learned something

Bossy Betty said...

This post is so thought-provoking. There are relationships we think will last forever and when they don't we often times fret about it rather than just seeing it as the ebb and flow of life.

Claus said...

Deep post entry! Going through some deep, thoughtful time perhaps? Indeed, any type of relationship - love, family or friendship - has its moments, happy and difficult ones. I've been rather closed in that matter; as if I was in a shell. I can count my friends with my hand, am not that close with my extended family (just my immediate ones, whom I can rely on any day) and have been extremely unlucky in that other kind of relationship. Regardless, it is true that every experience has contributed to shape me into the person I am today. Good or bad experiences do "chip in" to make us stronger, and hopefully, a little more wise.
Great post! Very personal, I feel, so thank you for sharing and opening up.
have a lovely day!!

(Scribe816) said...

Long ago I was told a saying that helped me realize why people came in and out of my life.
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It goes; “People come into our lives for a season, a reason or a lifetime.”

ladyfi said...

I like to think that our friendships and relationships have some meaning to them that make life better.

sprinkles said...

I can so identify with this post!

Looking back, there were certain people in my life that helped me tremendously with their friendship and advice. Most of them are no longer in my life for whatever reason and I kind of miss them now.

I had one boyfriend who I thought made me a better person. I tried to do so many things to improve myself. I thought he was THE ONE, only he didn't feel the same way. In the end though, long after we broke up, I feel like no matter what I did, it just wasn't good enough for him. I still keep in touch with this particular boyfriend sometimes and I'm glad we didn't stay together. He has a very different life now and I don't think we'd be very happy together.

Another example: That girl I met on the bus several weeks ago. She was attending the school I want to go to and gave me lots of advice. At the end of our ride, she said to me, "I feel like you and I were meant to sit together today." I felt like we were too.

I hope you're doing well today, Zuzana. Today and always.

Donna said...

What a beautiful post, dear Zuzana.

Hugs,
Donna

SandyCarlson said...

I share your belief that there are no random encounters. There is something of destiny in every meeting. We make it.

Hilary said...

Oh you're so right about everyone is has touched our lives for a reason. I also think we see that more clearly as we age. I am certain you have impacted many lives in a positive way and I have no doubt that there is much more to come. Hugs to you, my dear friend.

Rajesh said...

What an glimpse of your life. There is nothing called perfect relationship. It is all about compromise.

Bachelor said...

Zuzana,
Thanks for this very personal and inspiring post. You are a wonderful sensitive person who I'm sure have touched many lives, not only in your presence but also here among fellow bloggers! I wish you a very special day today!!
Thanks for being an inspiration!
:) The Bach

tony said...

Yes Zuzana.Nother Ever Happens By Chance.You Can Find Your Reason In Every Meeting.Its Difficult Sometimes To Be Open To Others,But What Would The Alternative Be?
A Very Thoughtful Post .

Kat_RN said...

Lovely post Zuzana,
Kat

Jill said...

This is a fantastic insightful post Zuzana. Each person touching our lives in just a way to make us wiser more "well rounded" in our daily lives -even...if it HURTS in the process. As I get older I realize I do not have "time" or interest in shallow or crazy friendships...and I am a better person for it.

I love your description of yourself in the first paragraph...

beth said...

i couldn't agree more with you....i embrace everyone. and some quickly leave, scared by my affection and those that stay are such a blessing to me.....

Phivos Nicolaides said...

You know very well yourself and you know what to offer and expect from others. You are gifted person and you have a balanced view on life and people. Good for you my dear. I much enjoy reading your story. You are a great story telling talent!!

Michael Manning said...

Thank you for sharing this post, Zuzana. I'm not a Tom Cruise fan at all, but I like something his character said in the movie "Jerry MaGuire": "We live in a cynical world". Too often, many fine people build walls around their emotions and heart. But what I believe you refer to is the ability you have to "See" the hearts of others. This is a Gift! And you are a Gift to us all!! lol!

Sniffles and Smiles said...

Zuzana...what a lovely and reflective post this is...it touches my heart deeply...I have no words to express what I feel when I read this...I just feel it and know it...and beyond all doubt, you are truly a soul sister!!! Love, Janine XO

Mitr Friend - Bhushavali said...

Very true!!! Some people who I meet in life taught me so much even without being aware of it!!! Esp, like what not to be or how not to behave!!!
All gals trip to Yercaud
Being a Saree clad Bride's Maid

Lynne said...

What a thought provoking post Zuzana. Sometimes people come into our lives, just at the right time.

NENSA MOON said...

What a beautiful post, Zuzana!
I love to come here and always got so many lessons from your blog...
Yeah that's life and the life .. people come and go decorate our lives ... some even affect our way of life ...
thanks for sharing your briliant thoughts nd views, my friend!!

Happy Thursday!
nensa

Stickhorsecowgirls said...

I believe in Providence--an unseen hand guiding my life, imparting purpose even when it's not going so well and I am questioning it. I also believe that there are no coincidences and the people who cross our paths are meant to for some reason. I don't even need to know the reason--just that there is one. Does that make sense or just seem like utter nonsense? Some day I will write of the last two years of my father's life and the amazing "coincidences" that unfolded in answer to my childhood prayers.
Thanks Suzanna for a thought-provoking post written in your most lovely, inimitable style!

Absolutely Ladylike said...

Dearest Zuzana,

I love the sentiment of this post. I do believe that everything happens for a reason even if we not always understand those reasons...I love how beautifully you're writing about those precious people in your life...

A cup of tea on the terrace with my family and a long talk with my friends are the best things in my life...and I never hesitate to have time for these things.

I hope you're well my dear. It's always a pleasure to visit you...your posts are filled with so much love :-)

Love: Evi

Zuzana said...

Susan, Doreen, swenglishexpat, Cathy, Brian, Stevie, Maria, SY, Betty, Claudia, Scribe, ladyfi, sprinkles, Donna, Sandy, Hilary, Rajesh, The Bach, tony, Kat, Jill, beth (welcome), Phillip, Michael, Janine, Bhushavali, Lynne, Nensa, C or V and Evi, thank you so much everyone for sharing with me your own sentiments when it comes to coincidental or destined meetings. We all have met people that had the ability to turn our life around.

Thank you all for reading through my more contemplative posts as well and finding the time to leave lovely comments; they make my day.

Xoxo
Zuzana

LG said...

Everyone above has said all I need to say. I love this post because I and others can relate to it all.People are in your life for a reason and we need to be sensitive to their works in our life as it were. I tend to make 'friends' easily with people I want to make friends with and then I tend to give my all and keep them for a long time...

Beverlydru said...

Hello Zuzana,
You add beauty to my life through your words, the music you share and your photos. I could almost smell your fragrance sticks from the post on smell!
May your life be full as you move into a new season. I sense your melancholy from that you've left behind. May the promise of the future be a warm fire for your heart.

Grandma's scrapbook said...

I love this post !

Zuzana said...

LG, Beverly and Grandma's scrapbook (welcome), thank you so much for your kind visits and your words, so glad you enjoyed this somewhat contemplative post.;)
xoxo