October 18, 2010

The Crossroads.

"There are always two choices. Two paths to take. One is easy. And its only reward is that it's easy."
Unknown


Have you ever found yourself in a dilemma, trying to decide for one out of two (or more) choices, not knowing what to to do?
I am sure you have.
We all have, at least once in our life.

Choices are presented to us daily, from the time we rise in the morning, until late evening, when the day ends. Some are easy and insignificant, such as what to wear, what to have for breakfast, which way to drive to work, what to make for dinner. These are choices we are forced to make on daily bases and the outcome does not significantly affect our overall lives, even though they might alter some of our daily routines.

Then there are choices that might take a bit more contemplation. Choices we are forced to take in both our personal or professional life, those which might affect our near future or that of our family and friends.
How we decide here depends on many aspects and as our decisions might affect our loved ones, we might seek help or advice in those we trust. Additionally we may support our decision making by research into the subjects in question. Finally we decide on what to do by using our deduction ability, our intellect and ultimately our feelings.

At times though, we are faced with life changing decisions. Choices that might define us and change forever and in a dramatic way the direction our future will take. Decisions we have to take alone.
And those choices are the hardest ones to make.

Someone once told me, that one should not fear decision making. If a decision is made and it proves to be wrong, a new one will have to be made. After all, we can only do the best we can with the information we are given at the present. We can base it on the experiences and knowledge gained in the past, but the future can not help us.

I personally have found myself at crossroads of life numerous times in the past. What I find to be the most traumatic about standing there, in that single moment in time, is the feeling of being paralyzed by fear and loneliness. How can I be expected to make a decision in a vital subject, which directly effects me, or those that I love? How can I be a realist in an issue, where taking a step back is impossible? It comes across almost as a conflict of interest.
Still, when the time comes, I seem to always know exactly what to do. My paralysis is lifted and I move on, without looking back, without regrets.

I find my strength in the belief that wrong choices do not exist, only detours and wrong turns. At times I have gotten lost while walking on the right path, still, in retrospect, those unplanned travels have led me to the most incredible adventures on the journey of my life.

When ever faced with a fork in the path of my life, I ultimately always know what to do as I take advice from three dear and devoted traveling companions; my heart, my conscience and my intuition. So far they have not let me down. 

34 comments :

Zuzu said...

Oh Zuzana, I love this post. Beautifully written and so very wise.
Hugs,
Zuzu

Brian Miller said...

smiles. you know there have been wrong turns in my past, but i would not change them for they led me here...without them i may no where near here...i think you have good traveling companions as well...

Claus said...

Ahhh yes...there's always more than one choice. If two is hard, three or more drives you crazy!, wouldn't you say? And while personally I've chosen one that hasn't ended as I anticipated, I don't regret it. If anything, it has shaped me into the person I am. And I like who, how, and where I am. It's all about learning I think.
Deep, deep post Zuzana!
have a great day.

Claus said...

Ahhh yes...there's always more than one choice. If two is hard, three or more drives you crazy!, wouldn't you say? And while personally I've chosen one that hasn't ended as I anticipated, I don't regret it. If anything, it has shaped me into the person I am. And I like who, how, and where I am. It's all about learning I think.
Deep, deep post Zuzana!
have a great day.

Hilary said...

I like the idea of there being no wrong decisions.. only detours and wrong turns.

I hope your decisions rest easy on your mind and on your heart, dear friend.

Michael Manning said...

Zuzana: In the best of circumstances, as my 90-year-old Aunt says: "An outstertched hand must be met by another". This is where friends can enter the picture and provide feedback and suportiveness with our well being in mind to guide us. I feel we are here to help one another. :)

ladyfi said...

Wonderful shots. I love that line: 'I find my strength in the belief that wrong choices do not exist, only detours and wrong turns.'

steviewren said...

Zuzana, it sounds like you have been standing on that precipice of indecision recently. I certainly know how you feel as I have been there too many times myself. Hopefully your three companions are whispering the answer in your ear.

Usually I stand there paralyzed until I realize that I have no choice but to make a move. I believe this is the conundrum that all deep thinkers face....because we analyze too much. At least that's what I do.

Good luck to you friend.

Richard Jesse Watson said...

This is beautiful Zuzana. Important reminder for me. Trusting our deeper instincts is always true and should give us peace no matter what the crossroad.

Mr. Witherspoon said...

So wise, and beautifully written. "I find my strength in the belief that wrong choices do not exist, only detours and wrong turns." I need to remember that line!

Elizabeth said...

This morning I read a part of your post, ran out of time but the rest of the day you were on my mind. Took some pictures which I will sent to you as soon as I'm home. In the pictures the situation is symbolized by mother nature.

Have a lovely evening.

Elizabeth

Lulda Casadaga said...

Zuzana: When you feel comfortable then here comes change. Damn it!
Love this post...I know you will make the right decision and remember we are here for you dear friend. I have to meet another crossroad in about a year or perhaps sooner. The school I am working at is closing! I'm leaving it up to chance and let the chips fall where they may...:(

Donna said...

Beautiful post, Zuzana.

Hugs,
Donna

Paul C said...

My heart, my conscience, and my intuition...I like this bit of wisdom regarding making choices.

Stickhorsecowgirls said...

This is a very interesting post and very timely for me as I find myself at a crossroads and terrified to step out! I've been getting little "nudges" that I MUST make a change soon--just not sure which direction to go!

Stickhorsecowgirls said...

This is a very interesting post and very timely for me as I find myself at a crossroads and terrified to step out! I've been getting little "nudges" that I MUST make a change soon--just not sure which direction to go!

Susan Deborah said...

Dear Zuzana:

Another post written from th heart that struck my heart! Long ago, I received a lovely message as a text forward. It said:

"When faced with tough decisions, toss a coin. You may not always arrive at the right answer but you will know what your heart wants."

I wish that all your decisions become good companions to you, dear Zuzana.

Joy always,
Susan

Kath said...

I think that is the secret my lovely freind " I move on, without looking back, without regrets."
Blessings, Kath

Loz said...

Hi Zuzana - it was Yogi Bera who said when you come to a fork in the road, take it. And the lesson in that is not to fear the future.
Cheers
Loz

Keith said...

Great post. I'm at a crossroads in my life right now. There are lots of choices to be made.

Jill said...

I resist those choices Zuzana! But, as life goes, we MUST make them and I have learned so very much in doing so.
Great insight.

Lynne said...

So true. That's a reassuring thought on wrong decisions not being wrong. I don't like making decisions generally.

LadyCat said...

In the past, I have been paralyzed with the fear of making a wrong decision too. But looking back the decisions that I thought were wrong, brought me to where I am now and that is exactly where I should be. So I agree with you, there are detours and turns in the roads, but they lead us to the right path in the end. Thanks for sharing your insightful perspectives : )

Laura said...

This sums it up so well...and this is what I believe too: "I find my strength in the belief that wrong choices do not exist, only detours and wrong turns. At times I have gotten lost while walking on the right path, still, in retrospect, those unplanned travels have led me to the most incredible adventures on the journey of my life."

exhale. inhale. exhale. take a step...see where it takes you.

Velvet Over Steel said...

Wonderful post!! I so needed to read this tonight! I have a dear friend who had a choice of 2 paths recently and was going to choose one... then at the last minute he choose the one with 100% unhappiness.. completely out of guilt that a family member put on him. So sad and I pray every day that there is a lesson, growth, something that leads him to Happiness someday.

Thank you so much for sharing this 'heartfelt' post with us!!

Hugh Hug to you,Zuzana!
Coreen

Costea Andrea Mihai said...

hello! i see beautiful photos on your blog! congratulation and best regards!

Sniffles and Smiles said...

I wish you lived near...I need you!!! :-)) I have such a terrible time making decisions...And I always second guess ALL of my decisions no matter how big or small!! I loved this post...what an encouragement you are to me!!! And an inspiration! Love you, dear Zuzana!!! You are a beautiful friend, inside and out!! ~Janine XO

Just_because_today said...

I often rely on the same companions but mostly the heart overpowers the intuition and the reason. Ok, so maybe my companions are heart, reason and intuition.
My decisions are often based on what will not hurt others even if that is not always reciprocated, and on that premise, it is a good decision.
I wish I could say there are no regrets in my decisions but when most of them are made with the heart, the heart knows reasons that reasons know not.

tony said...

Choice Is Always Good. The Worse thing in the World is to have no choice in something.
One of the wisest people I have ever know told me once that we should always aim the have three Choices in any situation.More than 3 was unrealistic:2 was ok.Only 1 was a terrible place to be, it made the road too narrow......

SandyCarlson said...

You sure do have me thinking--because I tend to defer all the big decisions to an indefinite nowhere out of time. A bad way to be.

I find your photos very compelling.

Betsy said...

Sometimes we learn the most from the detours! :)

NENSA MOON said...

I think...the best place to ask when we faced a difficult choice... just ask your heart, your conscience and your intuition...
Beautiful post, Zuzana!
Thanks for sharing.
hugs,
nensa

Zuzana said...

Zuzu, Brian, Claudia, Hilary, Michael, ladyfi, Stevie, Richard, Mr. Witherspoon, Elizabeth, Lulda, Donna, Paul, C or V, Susan, Kath, Loz, Keith, Jill, Lynne, LadyCat, Laura, Coreen, Costea (welcome), Janine, Myriam, tony, Sandy, Betsy and Nensa – I am always delighted to learn that some of my posts will speak to you in so many ways.

Indeed life is rarely smooth sailing and choices make it complicated. At times we get lost, but I always find true comfort in that beautiful saying, which states that life is a large ocean and we are the ships sailing it. The destination is predetermined, but the journey is up to us. Thus no matter our decisions, we will eventually arrive at the same spot, however, what the adventure of the travels will be like is up to us.;)

Thank you everyone for your wonderful and touching comments, your visits mean so much, more than any words can adequately describe.

Xoxo
Zuzana

(Scribe816) said...

There are times when no decision is the best decision.
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That's when destiny wants to solve the problem on it's own.